Safety Nets: Spot & Stop Fraud, Scams, & Manipulation

      Quick Links: Understanding Emotional Grooming The Red Flags Emotional Grooming: 10 Ways Out Frequently Asked Questions Understanding Emotional Grooming Have you heard of emotional grooming scams? No, I’m not talking about the terrible crime criminals use to abuse kids. That’s different. Security forces like FBI, Police, EFCC, and other specialised agencies are on ground to handle that. I’m talking about scams, where a fraudster slowly becomes your “friend”, “lover”, or “mentor” online. At first, they’re sweet. They listen. They care. You start to trust them. Then boom! Once you trust them, they ask for money, your bank details, or other sensitive confidential information. It feels personal because they shower you with attention.  That’s why even smart people get caught. That’s why I wrote this article in  Safety Nets: Spot & Stop Fraud, Scams, & Manipulation,  so that you can see what's coming before you get hurt. The Red Flags Nothing can esc...

    If you’ve been shopping online without getting nailed, thank God for you.  But you still need this article.  I’m just opening your eyes to potholes, so you don’t fall later. What if you’re new to buying from Instagram or WhatsApp vendors?  Then you need these safety nets even more. Scammers are waiting. I know most of you think that social media marketplaces are easy, fast, and safe.  However, let me be honest with you - that’s not always the case. Here’s the bitter truth: if you shop carelessly, you will lose two things:  money to fraudsters, and your self-confidence.  One bad experience is all it takes to make you scared of ever clicking “Buy Now” again. A global proverb says, “Once bitten, twice shy.”  It means if you’ve been hurt once, you’ll be extra careful next time so it doesn’t happen again. But do you really have to wait and get bitten first? I don’t think so. That’s why I put this article together in  Safety Nets: Spot ...

       Quick Links: Leading Question Explained Types Of Leading Questions How To Defeat Them Frequently Asked Questions What Does "Leading Question" Mean? Today in  Safety Nets: Spot & Stop Fraud, Scams, & Manipulation,  I am going to reveal to you a secret method that scammers use to gather information on their victims. Just as a tailor can't sow a befitting dress for you without taking records of the dimensions of your body, there's nothing a fraudster can do to you without having specific information about you. What does a scammer require to successfully victimize you? They need to know the dimensions of your identity, like your personal information, financial details,  social media profiles, and other relevant online and offline snippets about you These form the data with which scammers size you up or "measure" any prospective targets. How can they achieve that without your knowledge and  cooperation? Well, while the honest tailor norm...

  Quick Links: The Power of Intuition in Preventing Fraud Appreciating Your Gut Feeling: What Is It? How To Differentiate Between Fleeting and Accurate Gut Feelings 12 Ways To Leverage Your Gut Feelings To Avert Fraud Frequently Asked Questions The Power of Intuition in Preventing Fraud Can software alone protect you when scams evolve faster than code? Most people rely on anti-fraud tools, firewalls, and transaction alerts. They help, but in all fraud cases I’ve reviewed so far, the pattern is the same: your gut spots red flags first, and the system catches up later. Technology runs on rules, but fraudsters adapt fast to break them.   Intuition is a low-level signal that warns you of inconsistencies you can't even explain. It's the proverbial alarm bell of  "Prevention Is Better Than Cure",  telling you it's smarter to  stop a problem before it starts than to later fix the damage it caused. More to the point, it means you shouldn't wait for your account to ...

        Quick Links: Trust-Building Reasons Scammers Try To Build Trust Methods Scammers Employ To Build Trust Scam-Proofing Your Trust Frequently Asked Questions Trust-Building In this issue of  Safety Nets: Spot & Stop Fraud, Scams, & Manipulation , I’ll show you how to scam-proof your trust and avoid getting duped. Real  trust-building  is simple. It’s how two people work better together.  It means being consistent, open, and honest. Do what you say. Care about others. Proof you’re competent. Follow through. For honest people, trust is natural, like breathing. You stay true to your word. You keep your credibility through good manners and real relationships. You don’t have to force it. For scammers, flip that story.  They don’t build trust. They fake it.  They’re intentional,  mischievous, and desperate to make you believe them. Ask yourself this:  If they don’t look legitimate, how can they scam you?  They can’t...